When you hear the word ‘wedding’, it’s very likely that the conjured image features a blushing bride in layers of white lace and a veil. You picture the walk down the aisle, the flowers, the beautiful flower girls with ringlets and gorgeous dresses. You may even picture the stunning table layout with all the crystal glasses twinkling under the lights of the venue.
Well, step aside, bride! This may be your big day and the attention may all be on you, but there is another person waiting for you at the top of the aisle and we don’t mean the officiant! Your groom is waiting to take you from your father and guide you into the next life as partners together. He is not one who needs to be forgotten, but it’s an unfortunate truth. Most of the wedding organization for a lot of couples is done by the bride, her bridesmaids and your mothers. The groom often has little to no say in the preparations, as the bride has been planning this day her entire life. The thing to remember, is that without the proposal from the groom, there is no wedding to attend. No bouquet of flowers to catch and no honeymoon getaway car as there is no honeymoon! A wedding is not complete without a groom, and this is something that is always forgotten.
The groom does more than show up. Remember that he proposed to marry you, meaning he wishes to spend the rest of his life happy by your side. He chose you above all others and because of him you get this stunning day that you’ve daydreamed about. He chooses his best man, attends a bachelor party in his honor and goes to fittings for a bespoke suit, specially crafted for his big day. The groom, the best man and the groomsmen should have as much attention as you and your bridesmaids do when it comes to their wedding attire, so having tailoring appointments made is crucial so they can all look their best on the day of the wedding. The groom prepares a speech to thank you for being his bride, to thank your family for being there and he often pays for a big chunk of his savings out for the wedding of your dreams. This is his dream, too, and it should be remembered by all that this day is about the bride and groom as a pair.
Not every man is a useless groom and not every groom is going to show up late and hungover. Getting his input at each stage of the wedding shows you are willing to take his feelings and ideas into consideration, which should really be something you automatically do as a bride. This is the biggest day of both of your lives and if you ensure that your groom is in the spotlight as much as you are, you can trust that your wedding – and subsequent marriage – will go off without a hitch.