As a plus size bride, before you get married there are essential questions that you just NEED to ask. And it’s not about being noisy or intrusive but it’s about getting to know the person that you are going to be spending the rest of your life with. We’ve come up with our top 40 questions to ask your partner before walking down the aisle. These are also great questions to ask if you are already married to refresh the communication lines.
1. What is the best way for me to show that I love you?
2. If I put on weight, will it affect our sexual relationship? How?
3. What turns you off sexually?
4. How would our relationship be affected if for medical reasons we could not have children?
5. Is there anything in your past I should be aware of?
6. Have you ever been involved in any criminal activities? What were they?
7. What did you dislike the most about your previous partners?
8. If your past boyfriends/girlfriends listed your most negative characteristics, what would they be?
9. Would you be comfortable transferring all your money into my bank account?
10. Have there been times when you were uncomfortable with the way I behaved with the opposite sex? If so, when and what did I do?
11. What do I do now or what could I do in the future that would make you mistrust me?
12. Is there anything about marriage that frightens you?
13. If I wanted to move away from our families for work, would you support me?
14. Suppose we are experiencing trouble in our marriage. In what order will you seek help from the following to resolve our conflicts: (1) divorce lawyer, (2) your parents, (3) a brother or sister (4) a marriage counselor, (5) me, (6) a church leader? Why?
15. How will we schedule holidays with our families?
16. How long would you like to wait before having children?
17. When we have children, who will change the diapers, heat the bottles, prepare the meals, do the housework, bathe the child, get up in the middle of the night when a child is crying, take the child to the doctor, buy clothing, and dress the child?
18. If we are unable to have children, should we adopt?
19. Do you anticipate raising our children (1) the same way you were raised (2) completely differently from the way you were raised (3) a mixture of both?
20. If I had bad breath or body odor or wear dirty clothes, will you tell me? Should I tell you? Why or why not? How should we do it?
21. If you always say you are going to do something but never do it, what is the most effective way to bring this problem to your attention?
22. What did you admire about the way your mother and father treated each other?
23. Who should know bout the arguments we have?
24. What makes you not want to talk to me?
25. Do you feel you could communicate with me under any circumstance and about any subject?
26. What are all your current personal debts?
27. Do you feel stress when facing problems with finances? How do you deal with that stress?
28. How often do you use credit cards, and what do you buy with them?
29. Do you feel that lack of money is a good reason not to have children?
30. When our child is born, will he or she go to daycare or will one of us stay home to take care of the child? Who will it be?
31. What are your feelings about saving money?
32. Do you prefer separate bank accounts or assets in different names? Why?
33. How would you rank all the priorities in your life: work, school, family, spouse, friends, hobbies, and church? Does your ranking reflect the amount of time you spend on each?
34. What influence, if any, do you believe my family should have on our relationship?
35.. How would you react if our son or daughter told us they were gay?
36. Do you harbor any racial prejudice?
37. What health problems do you have?
38. Have you ever had any psychological problems?
39. What health problems do you have?
40. How do you feel about having guns in our home?
Have you talked about any of these questions with your partner?