plus size vs curvy

Plus Size vs Curvy…Which Do You Prefer?

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A while back we posted a QOTD and from that question came another great question. Are people offended when someone uses the words plus size? Do you prefer curvy or voluptuous?

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This somewhat baffled me because honestly I think of plus size being the pc way of saying things.  I myself am not offended because to me plus size is a more inclusionary word.  When I think of curvy or voluptuous I think about someone who has curves, meaning more of an hour glass body not necessarily a full figured or plus size body.  And when I hear voluptuous I automatically think of a women who has a larger chest.  Both of these words don’t necessarily make me immediately think of someone who is over a size 14 because as we know you can be curvy or voluptuous and not fit the “plus size” mold.

I feel that there is so much more going on in this situation than just the name.  It’s people realizing that we are a group that deserves and demands to be treated as everyone else.  We shouldn’t have to flip through magazines and websites imagining what we would look like in a wedding gown.  Because yes, this is the norm.

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I feel that we have made strides, I was going to put huge strides and I decided not to because actually we haven’t in so many ways.  We as a group are stilling hoping and praying that we will get the recognition that we deserve on the bigger blogs and magazines and we are making progress but there is still progress to be made.  Why are we still hanging around hoping and wishing that our images, our weddings are going to get picked up by publications that don’t cater to us. It’s common knowledge that a publication is going to include and share things with their readers that relate to their readers.   Do we really want that, do we want to be one of 300 in a month that goes up on a site along with 4 or 5 others in a day? Or constantly getting let down because a publication won’t pick you your images or story because you don’t look like their readers.

I feel like I’m going in a whole other direction than what I wanted to with this post but it honestly needs to be said.  I have been told constantly that I am doing what is so needed for the plus size community. I hear “We need this, Keep up the good work, Push forward” but ironically those same people that are saying that are sabotaging the movement because it’s so much more than considering ourselves plus size or curvy or voluptuous, it’s about allowing plus size brides and women to have a voice, an outlet where they see themselves in inspiration.   That’s what it’s all about!  It shouldn’t be about what we call ourselves.  We need to be joyous and excited that we are taking the steps to recognize that we are plus size or curvy or voluptuous, everything else will just fall into place.

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And I’m going to end it like I ended my previous post “Being a Plus Size Bride“, we, as plus size brides HAVE to take a stand, come together and come from behind the sigma that we don’t want to be represented on a “plus size” blog.  So often people realize it’s a plus size bridal blog and decide they don’t want to be featured on the blog, which is completely fine unless it’s because it’s a blog glorifying plus size brides.  I understand that everyone is not in the same place with their body acceptance and image and that’s fine but do you think it’s going to help your image or acceptance if your images aren’t picked up anywherer or if you an editor of a publication doesn’t take your images because of how you look.  First off we need to be happy that we are able to move in the direction that there is a blog dedicated to you and your gorgeous body inside and out and not make people imagine how they could or would look.

I’m curious how you all feel.  Do you like the term plus size? Do you like that there is a site and magazine where everything is dedicated to you?Or don’t you?

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Shafonne Myers is a certified wedding and event planner who longed for bridal inspiration that looked like her. She has created a website and magazine that brings bridal inspiration to plus size brides. She does speaking engagements educating the world about plus size brides and self confidence.
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About the author
Shafonne Myers is a certified wedding and event planner who longed for bridal inspiration that looked like her. She has created a website and magazine that brings bridal inspiration to plus size brides. She does speaking engagements educating the world about plus size brides and self confidence.

7 Comments

  1. I think it’s FANTASTIC that this site/publication exists! I’ve personally flip-flopped on how I feel about the term “plus-size”, but I agree with you that we shouldn’t put so much focus on the label. Instead we need to celebrate every body size and acknowledge the inspiration and confidence that comes with seeing a publication or spotlight that shows someone with a similar body to yours. And how that inclusiveness will continue to help us bring each other up in this world that is continuously trying to shut us down. Thank you for all you do!

  2. I am a woman who has battled her weight since childhood. At the age of five I was 95Lbs. At 15 I was 180. Now as an adult I am 200. I am 5’4 and measure 42/36/44.
    Curvy is what I call myself. As for a broad-term “category” file it under woman.
    Why should we have to be all placed in separate boxes labeled “x” “y” or “z”. Its the same labeling that can cause painful conflicts. Dont label us, we are not product’s we are people.
    If a company feels it’s too good to have anyone less than the most beautiful woman in their magazine then shame on them. Real world women are all shapes, sizes, races and faces.
    Why add to the segregationist media that only wants people who look nothing like the everyday person? Having “our own” blog/magazine/clothes etc is only fueling the fire. Inclusion is the key to acceptance.

    1. Liz, GREAT point! We agree full heartedly but also feel that the inclusion factor is not happening at all, especially in the bridal industry. We want to give plus size brides something to see themselves in. As a bride, all you strive for it is to see and image how you are going to look on your special day and it’s hard to do that when you can’t even find imagery that looks like you. And yes in an optimal situation, inclusion and having one publication or magazine that shows brides of all sizes is amazing….it just doesn’t exist. But we agree it should but until it does we are here to give that inspiration that so many plus size brides long for. Thanks so much for sharing your point of view, we really appreciate it!

  3. As a boudoir photographer who would like to fly the flag for plus size women, I really struggle with this issue too. It’s not MY desire to identify women by a label like “plus size” or “curvy,” but how else I can attract those sorts of women to see my work and know I’d love to photograph them? The internet forces you into calling people something in order for your work to be found by those people – there’s really no way around that.

    Personally, I’m a bit divided on the rest. While no one should be made to feel like a second class citizen due to their body shape (and being excluded from regular media), I also think it’s really nice to have media catered specifically to you. I mean…I really wish every online store was using my exact body to model clothing – I’d never have to return clothes again!

    I think you’re doing a fantastic job:)

  4. I am a plus size/curvy wedding planner and am very happy showcasing and submitting weddings and style shoots with plus size couples!

    All weddings are beautiful & everyone is beautiful in them!!

    I kind of made it a mini-mission of mine to be inclusive of all body types in my style shoots as much as possible because I have a very strong body positive foundation and the more we show we are confident, the more people can’t turn away!

    ALSO, I have dealt with many blogs and they do not treat me any differently because of my size or shape. I read all different types of blogs and even see plus size couples on them and feel super proud! Everyone, including plus size brides read the blogs that are not specifically for their size. But having this blog is such a positive way to make a stand that we are here and we are worth so much more than how we have been treated in the past.

    I think there is a huge body positive movement that can change many things! Glad to be a wedding planner who is part of it! 🙂

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