Whether you are just starting out in a budding relationship, or you have taken your long-term partnership to the next level, new beginnings can be a wonderful time for couples. It’s a chance to hit refresh and look forward to new possibilities; to bring renewed hope in the darkest of times. To help you set out on the right path and ensure your relationship remains a success, make sure to follow these golden rules.
Open with honesty
Almost everyone has been hurt before, which can make us hesitant to open our hearts and trust again. While this is an understandable response to trauma, closing ourselves off like this can also limit us from feeling happy moments to their fullest. It can also pave the way to a more dishonest relationship, where we don’t voice our worries or downplay our emotions.
To avoid this, you can work on a way to regain trust with your partner– whether they be a new beau or long-term partner. Setting the precedence for honesty early means you can connect on a deeper level and will be more emotionally in tune.
Set the right mood
Intimacy is an important part of any relationship. It keeps people feeling connected, even in difficult times; while it may sometimes suffer due to circumstances outside our control, it’s something that can be revived in time. Some couples may need professional help to assist with this, while others may benefit from making a few changes to their surroundings.
For example, you could invest in a new bed or look for the couch that suits your needs. Changes in your bedroom color scheme or lighting can also make a huge difference. It could even be that some scented candles can help, due to the possible aphrodisiac qualities of some scents.
Pencil in quality time together
When you are balancing work and family commitments, it can be tricky to keep time aside for each other to unwind. This can sometimes lead to emotional distance forming between even the closest of couples. This kind of tip takes some proactive effort on both your parts, so it’s wise to maintain open and honest communication while planning in some time for the week.
Remember your shared interests, and try out some activities you both enjoy. This could be anything from catching a flick at the movies to going on a hike in the nearby countryside. These moments together will then act as escapes from the stresses of daily life.
Save time for yourself
While you should always make time for each other, it’s also healthy to be happy with your own company. Couples living in each other’s pockets can cut themselves off from amazing experiences with family and friends and develop an unhealthy dependency. If you feel yourself getting irritated by your partner more often, know it’s ok to spend time alone. In fact, it’s recommended.
Use this time to focus on things you love, or to de-stress from any difficult situations. Activities like yoga can help you decompress and may even help relieve symptoms of depression. For those who are social butterflies, make the most of this time with friends. When you and your partner come together again at the end of the day, you’ll have a renewed sense of appreciation for them.
Don’t be afraid to compromise
Fairy tales teach us that once you’ve found someone, it’s an easy ride from that point on. In reality, most couples have arguments from time to time, but it’s how we deal with them that defines us as successful. Every disagreement needs to be met equally by both partners to find a solution. If it is consistently one person getting their way, it’s not fair and can cause self-esteem issues.
Instead, learn to recognize when you should say sorry. More importantly, learn from any mistakes and move on, so the same issues reoccur less in the future. Of course, issues like who leaves laundry on the floor and who leaves the cap off the toothpaste tube will be small things that couples can never quite fight. In the end, though, these often become the endearing parts of every long-term relationship.
Work towards common goals
Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how much you love someone if you keep butting heads over what the future holds. From the outset, it’s great to have some common goals to work towards, which can leave you both feeling hopeful for the future.
From babies and marriage to traveling the world and setting up a business, don’t let what anyone else’s goals define what you want to do. Though easy to feel the pressure, it’s best to stick to what your gut tells you, and in most cases, this will be what your partner wants, too. As with the above, some of these goals may require compromise. Others may need more concrete plans in place, such as when you are planning to buy your first home.
No matter what, always keep an open mind and communication flowing, so you and your partner are always on the same level.
Live in the moment
It may seem contradictory, but the best-laid plans are often complimented by trying to live in the moment. Some couples may only get fleeting moments with each other in their busy lives, and others may have limited time together. Even if you don’t, living in the moment can bring about some of the happiest, most carefree moments with the one you love. Sunset strolls, going out to dance, making an impulse gift purchase- they help us keep the spontaneity alive.
If you struggle to stay present in these moments, you can practice mindfulness to help. As this becomes the norm, you’ll create a bank of memories you’ll cherish.