We have a worrying tendency to spend weeks, months or even years planning engagements that last only a day. Every year we work ourselves into a frenzy dashing around obsessing over the minutiae of every birthday party, every Thanksgiving, and every Christmas. Yet, for all our planning, our slavish devotion and rigorous efforts, the moment itself quickly comes and goes in what feels like the blink of an eye. We’re left wondering how the moment could have slipped by us so quickly. The same is especially true of our weddings. The modern wedding is more than a beautiful and romantic gathering… It’s a logistical operation that borders on being a full scale military operation. With so many moving parts to worry about from the catering to the dress, to whether the father of the bride will have one too many before it’s time to give his speech, it’s little surprise that so many brides feel like their wedding day flashes by in what seems like the blink of an eye.
If your wedding day is looming on the horizon it’s likely that you’ve spent months or possibly even years trying to arrange this enormous undertaking while trying to stay on the right side of sanity. After scouring what feels like the whole planet, you finally found the perfect dress that not only looks gorgeous on you but makes you feel truly beautiful, finally finding a beautiful wedding venue and organizing a plethora of little odds and ends from champagne to seat covers, the bid day itself will soon be here. Deep down you know that, like all other things that take a long time of planning, your wedding day will come and go in what may well seem like the blink of an eye. Most brides spend the morning of their wedding in a state that’s right on the razor’s edge between elation and agony. They force down their breakfast as their adrenaline saturated bodies do everything they can to try and force them back up again. Despite the exquisite yet terrifying combination of excitement and anxiety, it’s important to get yourself in the right frame of mind for the day. Thus, it’s vitally important to tell yourself that…
It’s okay to have jitters
Wedding day jitters are completely natural and inevitable. After all, a wedding is a huge undertaking and a marriage is an enormous commitment. You feel nervous about buying a new car or moving into a new house so it stands to reason that the thought of getting married for the rest of your life would be the cause of a few jitters. It’s not because you don’t love your husband or wife to be, nor does it mean that you aren’t perfect for each other. Even if you’re feeling doubts, this is also perfectly natural. It simply means that you’re a human being and, in keeping with human nature, you’re scared of the great unknown. Don’t sour the day by punishing yourself for these perfectly natural feelings.
Everything is going to be okay
On the morning of the wedding, your mind is likely chock full of worst case scenarios. Every conceivable thing that could go wrong (however unlikely) is likely playing on a loop in the theater of your mind. The more you dwell on this, the less and less likely a happy and uneventful wedding day seems. Yes, a wedding is a big deal, yes, there’s a Hell of a lot to manage, but it’s important to remember that even if everything doesn’t go perfectly, everything’s going to be okay.
It’s time to let go!
You’ve carried a lot of emotional and psychological baggage with you up to this point. Now’s the time to (in true Disney fashion) let it go. Let go of your apprehensions, let go of your anxieties, let go of your worst case scenarios and most of all let go of your preconceptions of what the day will be like. You won’t enjoy your wedding day if you’re simply waiting for the pieces to fall into place or comparing the wedding to the one you’ve envisioned for so many years. Let it all go and let your wedding just happen.
You are beautiful
Whether you’ve subjected yourself to a gruelling weight loss routine prior to your big day or whether you’ve simply decided to stay healthy and stay you in the days leading up to your big day, it’s possible that you might not feel beautiful on the morning of the wedding day. We’re all slaves to our issues surrounding our appearances, and as much as we’d like to believe otherwise, this is as possible on our wedding day as it is every other day. No matter what that nagging little voice in your head may tell you, it’s vital that you remind yourself that, regardless of how you may feel subjectively… you are beautiful!
You are surrounded by people who love you
If your wedding day jitters get the better of you, it’s a good idea to remind yourself that you will be in the safest environment humanly possible. You’ll be surrounded by friends and relatives and people who love you and want only to see you happy. You’re in the perfect environment! Plus, if things get really hairy, you can always involve them in making sure everything goes smoothly.
Your venue has got your back
As well as all the emotional and moral support you have from those closest to you, it’s important to remember that your wedding venue has your back. Remember, this may be a unique experience for you, but these guys deal with weddings day after day after day. They’re well prepared for every contingency and they’re watching all the logistical stuff like hawks. They won’t let your wedding be mired by logistical problems.
Take some time to yourselves
Your wedding day can feel like you’re riding a ferris wheel that’s going at 100 miles an hour and sometimes you need a second to get off this crazy ride and simply take stock and enjoy each others’ company. As much time as you spend meeting, greeting and getting snapped, it’s vital that you take some time to yourselves. Sneak off somewhere and enjoy each others’ company, if only for a half hour.
But finally, the most important thing to remember is that all you need is love. And if you didn’t have that, you wouldn’t be here.
Enjoy your day!